Tuesday, August 28, 2012

As a follow up to my ...strange tale...as it concerns Fibro

Dear Fibro friends, 

As a group (and I'm sorry for those of you to whom this generalization does not apply), we need to LOVE OURSELVES more. 

I just went to exercise and as I was walking I thought of something. In my former post, I expressed that I had contacted a friend (who had said over a week ago that 'she would always be there for me') about 4-5 times (now six) but who's counting.....LOL : P. She has not responded once. 

I really, honestly, truly do not know what to do. 

But the first thing I did was start with "What did I do wrong?" "I must have done something to push her away". 

WHY? 

Why can't it just be "her" problem? Why can't it be a situation where I am not wrong, or horrible, but simply that either she is sick, or a family member has an emergency, or she's simply tied up with something else. 

Now, the pictures on facebook of her using her phone to for sharing her lying by the pool and recuperating, were a little too much to bear. But OK, maybe something happened, since that time, which made this "period" seem longer than it really is. 

HOWEVER, why are we always accusing ourselves first? Why do we think that WE did something wrong? 

I am a good person. I care about my friend. I check on her regularly. I was honest with her so that she didn't think I was avoiding her (since I'd be busy with a project for a friend and didn't have much money to go out and maybe have coffee or a bite to eat). I told her that things were tough now. I did what I could do. 

I don't know what else to do. 

SO, what I am going to do is this. I'm going to assume that SHE has a problem and stop adding to that by texting her or emailing her. 

I am also going to pray for her. If something serious has happened, why not do the best that I can do to make the situation better for her by praying. She hasn't turned nasty all of the sudden.

She needs my prayers and someday, maybe we will chat again. But for now, I simply cannot worry OR blame me. 

Fibro friends, let's LOVE OURSELVES. Of course we make mistakes sometimes and we know it. But let's not LOOK FOR MISTAKES OR ASSume we've made them, when we haven't. 

Love yourself.....treat yourself well.....and move on.....

Until later....

Blessings.............

Mo M. 

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